During StrengthWise recent weekly live chat, we delved into the world of finances, again, as I keep exploring the recurring complaints and struggles most of us face when it comes to money.
Today, I want to share with you a transformative approach inspired by Gay Hendricks' book, "The Big Leap," and explore how it can help you achieve financial freedom.
You see, Hendricks introduces the concept of the "upper limits" that we unconsciously set for ourselves, which prevent us from reaching our full financial potential. These limits manifest as self-imposed barriers when we are about to exceed our comfort zones in terms of money.
But fear not, for we have the power to break through these limits and soar into new heights of prosperity. It all starts with understanding our money stories – the beliefs we hold around money that shape our reality. These stories are often shaped by our personal experiences, family influences, and the culture we grew up or live in.
For instance, if someone takes money from us and doesn't return it, we may develop a lasting belief that people are inherently dishonest. Perhaps our family drilled into us the idea that money doesn't come easy, reinforcing a scarcity mindset. Moreover, growing up in a society that stigmatises wealth might have led us to believe that being rich is something negative.
But here's the exciting part: once we uncover these stories, we hold the power to suspend them, install new empowering beliefs, or dismantle them through new habits. This is where "The Big Leap" comes into play, as it offers a roadmap for identifying and overcoming our upper limits.
I invite you to embark on a journey of self-discovery and transformation, inspired by Gay Hendricks' wisdom. Take a moment to reflect on your own beliefs around money. What stories do you hold about it? Are they rooted in personal experiences, family influences, or the culture you grew up or live in?
To further explore our emotional connection with money, let's map out the range of negative feelings that may arise when we discuss or pursue money.
This is the worry and anxiety associated with not having enough money to meet our basic needs, pay bills, or handle unexpected expenses. It stems from a fear of financial instability and the inability to provide for ourselves and our loved ones.
Shame occurs when we feel a deep sense of embarrassment and self-blame regarding our financial situation or past money-related choices. It can arise from comparing ourselves to others, societal expectations, or feeling like we have failed to meet certain financial standards.
The feeling of remorse or self-reproach for past financial mistakes or decisions often arises when we believe we have mishandled money, overspent, or failed to save adequately. Guilt can hinder our ability to move forward and make sound financial choices.
A belief that we are undeserving of financial abundance or success may stem from low self-esteem, feelings of inadequacy, or past experiences that have influenced our self-worth in relation to money. This belief can prevent us from pursuing opportunities or valuing our own financial well-being.
A fear that pursuing financial success or wealth will result in a loss of connection or acceptance from loved ones. This emotion can arise from cultural or familial beliefs that associate money with negative attributes or view financial success as a threat to relationships or personal values.
The tendency to attribute financial difficulties or challenges to external factors or other individuals, like blaming circumstances, bad luck, or others for our financial situation can hinder personal growth and prevent us from taking responsibility for our financial choices and actions.
It's crucial to be aware of these emotions as the first step towards overcoming them.
In our pursuit of releasing these emotions, I'd like to share some powerful techniques with you:
Write down your thoughts and emotions around money in a journal. Explore the underlying reasons behind your beliefs and fears. This process allows for introspection and can provide clarity and perspective.
Practice mindfulness and meditation to cultivate a non-judgmental awareness of your thoughts and emotions. By observing them without attachment, you can gradually release their hold on you.
Create empowering affirmations related to money and abundance. Repeat them daily to reprogram your subconscious mind and replace limiting beliefs with positive ones.
Visualise yourself in a state of financial freedom. Imagine the freedom, opportunities, and joy that come with it. Engage all your senses to make the visualisation experience more vivid and compelling.
Consider consulting a coach or therapist, such as an NLP practitioner, who specialises in mindset and belief change. They can provide valuable guidance, techniques, and support to help you overcome your limiting beliefs and achieve breakthroughs in your money mindset.
Releasing these emotions might be challenging at first, but with consistent practice and self-compassion, you can experience remarkable shifts in your money mindset.
To your abundance and success,